Leaving a legacy (with a little help) . . .

Let’s start with this. I am not what you would call a journal kind of guy. I like to keep my internal thoughts . . . well, internal.

So, when Ned over at Rebel And Create (go check the site and the podcast, it’s a fantastic resource for dads wanting to be better dads) sent me this journal he’s created, I wasn’t sure if I would be able to keep it up.

This is not your ordinary journal.

Ned gives you all the tools you need in this one beautifully bound book to decide who you want to be as a dad, celebrate your victories, reflect on and learn from your mistakes, give yourself grace when (not if) you screw up, and really focus on how to be a better version of you.

The journal covers 3 months. Each month starts out with a calendar so you can plot out your month with what you have to do and what you want to do. Already, this makes it more practical than any other journal I’ve tried. Then the daily entries are a series of guided prompts to help you focus your mind and your heart on what really matters: your family and how you can best love and serve them.

I worry about leaving a legacy for my kids. I don’t always feel like I have that much to offer. I’m a former retail manager turned stay at home dad. Whoopie. But I’m starting to understand that it’s not what I do for a living that matters. It’s how I live. My 2 year old doesn’t care what my paycheck looks like. She just wants to know that Dada will hold her (and get her cheese on demand). She just needs to know that Daddy is there and will love her no mater what.

One of my favorite things that surprised me is a small not printed on the first few pages: “If found after my death, please give to my children.” This is not just a tool to better your own life. This is a legacy you give to your kids, so they can see just how much you tried to invest of yourself in their childhood.

Ned, thanks a ton for this, thanks for having a passion to help fellow dads out on this adventure of fatherhood, and thanks for this piece of the map to get to the end of it better than we started.

Me Time -A Precious Commodity

During this time in which the universe seems to have told us all to go to our rooms and think about what we’ve done, I have been spending most of my time helping my in-laws around the house, trying to keep up with my 20-month old toddler, and taking care of my now 9-weeks pregnant wife. That doesn’t leave a lot of room for Daddy-time (hence the sporadic posting here). At this point, I take over the living room after everyone else has gone to bed. So, here I sit, on the couch, with my beer.

Hear that? That’s a sigh of temporary relief you hear.

As a result, I have to be pretty selective about what I watch/listen to/play. Gotta make Daddy-time count. I thought that I’d offer up to you all what I’m using for personal entertainment because so many people have asked me . . . no . . . wait, no one has asked. Oh, well. I’m forging ahead anyway. Here you go.

Podcast: Espionage from Parcast.

I’ve been a fan of spy stories for as long as I can remember. From Bond to Bourne, I’m a sucker for it. Espionage goes deep into the true stories of real spies, and offers up some of the most interesting history lessons I’ve heard in quite a while. I highly recommend the recent two parter on George Washington’s spies.

I listen to this on my morning walks with Little Bit. She sits in her stroller and eats her Cheerios while I listen to podcasts. It gets us out of the house in the mornings, gives her some quiet, gives my wife some extra sleep, and gives me, well, some time out of the house. Everybody wins!

Book: Leviathan Wakes by James S. A. Corey

I got this on my Kindle on a whim. I know of the Expanse TV series based on this book, but have not watched it yet. The book reads like a detective novel set in an epic space opera (so far, anyway. I’m only a few chapters in). I’ll usually read a little bit before I finally drift off to sleep, so a paragraph or two at a time. So far, it’s an interesting read.

TV: Star Wars: The Clone Wars

Yeah, I’m a nerd. Sue me. I’ve been looking forward to this one for a while. Ahsoka Tano is one of the more interesting characters in the Star Wars universe. Thus far, this is an excellent way to close out this series. Two more episodes to go as I write this, and it looks like we’re coming to an emotional conclusion. Again, unapologetically a nerd.

How about you? What podcasts should I be listening to? What books should I give a chance? Let me know.

Stay safe and stay sane out there, y’all.